Mike,
It was 'their policy'. They forced her into school, because if she had not gone at the time which the local Education authority specified, she would have had to travel much further than the short walk to this particular school - hardly ideal for a small child. And that was the threat which was held over the heads of her caring parents.
Of course the school had a 'nursery class', so it wasn't really school at all was it? (ho-ho. how early the duplicity begins.)
The point is that the professionals did not pick up that this child was in trouble. Do they have no training which would let them realise that a child needs extra help and encouragement before the problem becomes intractible? When the parents picked it up, the school was, for far too long, completely disinterested which left the parents feeling that they were worrying unnecessarily.
If the child had been at home, perhaps her own mother could have helped her more. But since the 'professionals' had charge of her child during the school day, the parents assumed that the best was being done to bring that child on.. and that the only problem was with the child.
With only one child, what reference did the parents have for the problems which their daughter has?
A great deal of (often unwarranted) trust is placed in 'the professionals'.
From my perspective, having struggled with an assortment of health, educational and social care professionals, (who acted - and are still acting - in a quite unprofessional manner) that blanket level of trust, needs to be removed, and only set back in place where the individual 'professional' is shown to act professionally - as I am aware that most do. But would it help if every parent were given free reign to wander through the school when lessons are taking place, so they could personally see that their child is being properly educated and treated well? Hardly!
So what is the answer? Pushing children into school even earlier?
Does no-one realise how precious our children are? There must be a better way to take them out into the big world. And that way must not only suit some professional's idea of perfection but must be of benefit to that individual child.